If God Says You’re Beautiful, Who’s To Say You Aren’t?

Yesterday I attended Friday night Bible study and during worship (when we sing to the Lord), the singer, who is a good friend, began sharing.

“Let’s not try to impress God. He has angels with perfect pitches who literally have instruments built into them that worship Him. Let us just get to that intimate place with Him.”

This really, really resonated with me because everyday I worship at home in the morning, and I seriously try to impress God with my singing and how much effort I’m trying to put into it. And last night, in that moment, I just imagined God chuckling at my attempts, like how a Father chuckles at his little son who is trying desperately to beat him at a wrestling match, and I realized that is where my disconnect stemmed from: when I began worshipping to impress God rather than just to share a time of loving intimacy with Him.

As the layers behind my worship began to peel away, I cried and bowed my head. I told God I didn’t deserve to look up at Him.

Then I heard God speak.

He said, “I have made you holy, I have made you righteous. You are beautiful. Look up at Me.”

Now my tears flowed from joy. “God, you think I’m beautiful?” And I looked up.

The rest of my time in worship consisted of a joy I had missed out on for a while now. I have had this joy before, this deep sense of the weight of God’s love, but when my worship turned into approval-seeking, the joy got a little dry.

Jesus promised complete joy, but He desires intimacy. He wants us to come to Him with no motives, but simply to love and be loved by Him. He calls Himself the Bridegroom, and we His people, the Bride.

The joy and intimacy I experienced last night, I want to experience every single day.

I woke up today with that resolve. And when I came into worship, O did God reveal just a little more of the depth of His immeasurable love to me.

I realized that we can’t even measure this universe, with its billions of stars and galaxies, let alone God’s love. And again, I was moved to tears at the grandness of that, the vastness, the infinite capacity of love this God pours out over the entire universe. Even in the midst of all its darkness caused by evil and all our sin, God’s love reaches out to us; it surrounds us in creation and beckons us by His Spirit. The reality of what He sent His Son to this earth to do, to shed His perfect blood, to be pierced and wounded and broken, that we might be reconciled to the Father and have access to an eternal love-relationship with Him. God’s love is everywhere. No matter how dark this world is, it can never, and will never, extinguish the light of God’s love that encompasses every fiber of this universe. The Author of love, Love itself, has His fingerprints upon us all, He has His markings in our DNA, in our hearts. He wrote His law on us, He gave us a conscience, He gave us a book saturated with divine inspiration, a hundred percent prophetically accurate and transforming.

His love is everywhere. And I can’t get enough of it.

Jesus is a Man I will never get over.

He has no beginning, no middle and no end so His love has no beginning, no middle and no end. It is boundless. It is eternal. And it is waiting … for you.

“I Read Erotic Novels, But I Read My Bible Too”

Does one think because they are not doing the act, and only thinking it, that God’s cool with it?

I think we just don’t know God well enough. Or we simply forget He knows our every thought and the motives in our heart, every secret thing we hide deep inside.

We think it’s okay to read a romance novel filled with (or maybe “only two”), pornographic scenes. Maybe we silence our consciences since it’s just words and not as graphic as a television screen.

But did not Jesus equate lust with adultery?

God is the epitome of holy. He turns away in disgust at our sinful thoughts. Yet He does forgive those who are truly repentant. And He forgets.

But one must not think it’s okay to continue reading, watching, or just fantasizing about certain things, namely, sexual things (unless we’re married and thinking about our spouse, but if you are married you won’t even have to fantasize).

God sees, He hears, He knows.

We should be afraid of Him. But, it should be our love for Him that causes us to obey, just as Jesus taught.

In other words: if you’re okay with the stuff you’re watching, reading, listening to, or doing, then you don’t love Him with all your heart. You may love Him with some of your heart, but that’s like saying on your wedding day, “I’ll mostly stay through sickness and health, and all the other stuff, but not entirely.”

I wouldn’t have married Jonathan if I knew there were other women he loved besides me. I want his 100% devoted love, not some or most of it. And God is no different in that respect. He expects, with good reason, all of you.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12:1)

What are you thinking, reading, watching, listening to, or doing that you know isn’t God-honoring? If you call yourself a Christ-follower, that title entails a denial of self, a “crucifying” of one’s sinful desires, and a pursuit of Jesus.

Do you love Him with all of your heart?

If you’re a Christian you should strive for holiness, just as your Heavenly Father is holy.

He gave everything for us. He deserves nothing less in return.

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Hollywood’s Love Lies Video

So me and Sir Jonathan (my husband), film relationship videos for YouTube. We give advice on how to do relationships God’s way. In this video, we parody Hollywood’s romantic comedies and debunk the second lie to their version of love. Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts on it.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=y3mBIfUro9o

Choosing Who To Marry

I used to think there was only one specific person God wanted you to marry. But after reading this, I’ve come to a different conclusion:

“A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” (I Corinthians 7:39)

The Apostle Paul says here that a woman has the freedom to marry whom she wishes, as long as they are a fellow Christ-follower. This kinda nullifies the whole “soul-mate” idea we’re spoon-fed via Hollywood.

However, I certainly believe there are people God does not want us to marry. The first being someone who does not follow/know/love Him.
But there are times where someone can say they believe in Jesus, but they’re not really following Him wholeheartedly. It is certainly detrimental to your own pursuit of Christ to bind yourself in marriage or even just tie your soul to someone relationally who does not give their whole heart to God.
Think about it: if this person cannot give Love Himself, the One who’s given them everything; died for them, made the way to heaven for them–if they cannot love Him with all their heart, or trust Him with all their heart, how could they possibly love you in a trustworthy and fully devoted way? They can’t devote themselves to the Perfect Person, how will they devote themselves to an imperfect person? The obvious answer is they won’t. Even if they never physically commit adultery, their eyes will look at others, their minds will wander, they will fantasize, or they’ll be more devoted to something else like a job, the kids, or themselves; their dreams, their desires, their money, their space etc.

The kind of love Christ taught us was very, very counter-nature:

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:5-8)

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her … So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself … let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:22, 25, 28, 33)

Submit to your husband in everything (Ephesians 5:24)? Respect a man always, even if you do not deem him respectable? This is something a natural woman, a woman who does not love and trust Jesus wholeheartedly will not want to do, nor can do.

Love your wife as you love your own self? That means to always look out for her and provide for her needs, cherishing her always, treating her as one who is just as important as your own self so she needs to be listened to and appreciated. This is impossible for a man to do till death do you part.
And to not seek your own? That’s all the culture feeds us: do you feel good with them, do they make you happy, are you pleased with them in bed, do you have a good time with them? It’s all about you. But Christ says: wait until you marry this person to enjoy their body. Sacrifice your interests, don’t seek your own, be patient “suffer long.”
When things get tough, don’t give up, do not fail to keep your vows, bear all things, always believe the best. I mean, this stuff is hard at times even for Christians to do because it’s much easier to put yourself first. But when you love Christ with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, you seek to please Him. You desire to obey the way He tells you to love others. And in His amazing grace, He gifts you with His Holy Spirit so you actually can supernaturally love the way He commands. It’s an incredibly beautiful thing.

So Christian, can you marry who you want? Only if they too love the Lord. You’ll save yourself much heartache and save yourself from divorce if you marry someone who loves Jesus more than anything or anyone else. So please be wise. Do not marry based on feelings. Marry based on observation. Does this person really love Christ wholeheartedly? How do they show it? What things come out of their mouths? What do they want to do for the Lord? How is God using them presently? Do they walk in the 1 Corinthians 13 kind of love toward others? Are they patient, kind, honest, pure, a servant? Or are they selfish and self-seeking, a gossip, rude, impatient, and prideful?

Besides choosing to follow Jesus, who you marry is most certainly the most important decision you will ever make. Who you marry will either build you up in Christ, or drag you farther away from Him. There is no in-between. You decide who to marry. I pray it’s a good choice.

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