Christians: Stop Stepping In Dog Poop

Wow:

“But now since you have been set free from sin and have become the slaves of God, you have your present reward in holiness and its end is eternal life.”(Romans 6:22 AMP)

Wow squared:

“So then, my dear friends, just as you have always obeyed, not only in my presence, but now even more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God who is working in you, enabling you both to desire and to work out His good purpose.” (Philippians 2:12, 13)

This verse has finally clicked in my brain:

“Do everything without grumbling and arguing, so that you may be blameless and pure, children of God who are faultless in a crooked and perverted generation, among whom you shine like stars in the world.” (Philippians 2:14, 15, italics mine)

So my question is: why are so many Christians struggling with sin?

I touched on this, but for me personally, I struggled with sin; impatience, rudeness to my husband sometimes, selfishness. And even though they were done on “smaller scales,” they were consistent. I didn’t know why I couldn’t stop acting them out completely.

Then this whole thing happened; a huge whammy revelation that all this time, I’ve been believing a lie: that even as a Christian, I would mess up and sin. I just completely accepted this as fact, that it was impossible to be, as Colossians 1:10 states, “fully pleasing” to God.

But it’s not impossible. In fact, it’s expected! We are commanded to walk worthily and work out our salvation.

Now some will pause and say I’m believing a works-only salvation, but that’s not what I’m saying, and that’s not what the Bible is saying.

What the Bible says is that we are saved by God’s grace, through Jesus Christ, who’s blood cleanses us from all sin, and makes us new. Now, in this newness, we can walk in holiness and obedience to God, that leads to salvation.

Remember:

“But now since you have been set free from sin and have become the slaves of God, you have your present reward in holiness and its end is eternal life. For the wages which sin pays is death, but the [bountiful] free gift of God is eternal life through (in union with) Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:22, 23 AMP)

There is a payment for sin, and that is death, however:

“All wrongdoing is sin, and there is sin which does not [involve] death [that may be repented of and forgiven]. We know [absolutely] that anyone born of God does not [deliberately and knowingly] practice committing sin, but the One Who was begotten of God carefully watches over and protects him [Christ’s divine presence within him preserves him against the evil], and the wicked one does not lay hold (get a grip) on him or touch [him].” (1 John 5:17, 18 AMP)

There are sins that don’t lead to death, but we know lying does for sure, as does sexual immorality, drunkenness, selfishness, idolatry, anger, envy, etc. and how many Christians struggle with these yet justify it and think they’ll still get into heaven?

We can’t trust our feelings or the mere teachings of men. We need to search the Scriptures, to really know them ourselves, and obey God.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the road is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who go through it. How narrow is the gate and difficult the road that leads to life, and few find it.” (Matthew 7:13, 14)

If I don’t get married tomorrow, I’m going to die

Do you feel like you’ve been waiting for that spouse for a long time? Are you wondering what in the world is taking so long?

Make sure you’re being practical, not mystical. Choosing a spouse is up to you, but you do need God’s affirmation on the person you desire to pursue.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. (Matthew 6:33)

Seek God’s will first and His righteousness. Pause for a moment. Are you righteous? Are you seeking God’s will first? Not just seeking Him in the area of relationships, but in every area of life.

You may be praying for a spouse, but you’ve got sin in your heart that has yet to be dealt with.

Do you struggle with lust and think when you get a spouse it will magically disappear? Yes, we all get tempted at some point, but the Bible is clear that:

No one undergoing a trial should say, “I am being tempted by God.” For God is not tempted by evil, and He Himself doesn’t tempt anyone. But each person is tempted when he is drawn away and enticed by his own evil desires. Then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and when sin is fully grown, it gives birth to death. (James 1:13-15)

James tell us in the verse before:

A man who endures trials is blessed, because when he passes the test he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him. (James 1:12)

If you fall into sexual sin, and have premarital sex, are you enduring? Should you expect a spouse? If you are master-bating because you cannot control your thoughts, are you enduring?

Again, we all get tempted by our own lists, and the Bible commands us to “take every though captive and bring it into the obedience of Christ,” (2 Corinthians 10:5) and in various other places, “don’t conform but be transformed by the renewing of your mind,” and, “gird the loins of your mind.” If you are allowing yourself to have sexual fantasies or are succumbing to pornography, God will not hand over one of His precious children to your lust so that you can objectify them and use them and end up cheating on them because you never learned to control your thoughts.

If this is speaking to you, the beautiful thing is that God understands our weaknesses. You can come to Him and confess these things. Do not try and hide it, Adam tried that trick in the garden and it accomplished nothing.

God is all-knowing remember? He knows every thought you have. But He wants you to confess it to see if you are serious about changing. That’s the first step: confession.

The second is repentance. Realize how broken you are. Realize that Jesus takes sexual lust so serious He equates it to adultery. Determine not to fantasize or masterbate or have premarital sex anymore.

Ask brothers and sisters to hold you accountable. Seek biblical counseling. Disconnect your Internet. Run from it! Repentance means running from your sin. Read your Bible, let it shine its bright light on the darkness of your heart, be open to it exposing your secret motives to you.

When you do this and overcome, then you will be a trust-worthy steward who God can bless with a spouse. Until then, stop whining and start changing.

It may not be lust you battle, but anger, or insecurity. These all must be dealt with. If you’re an insecure woman, you believe the lie that a husband will make you feel secure. In reality, when he comes, you’re gonna be making Him the Messiah in your life and set unreal expectations on him that will bring your marriage to destruction.

Anger is obviously destructive so need to expound on that one. But these are necessary to rid yourself of before marriage.

So, seek God’s will and righteousness first, and everything else will be added to you.

Kiss a Frog, Miss the Prince

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qdOwW-qmwJs

Natasha discusses four types of “frogs” women get into relationships with before introducing them to the Perfect Prince and the Rescued Frog. With funny anecdotes and great advice, women discover how to discern frogs from true princes, and are encouraged to wait on God to write their real-life fairy tale.

You can get it from Amazon for .99 cents. Here’s the link if you’re interested:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00FDWY2G8/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1379978121&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX110_SY165

“I Read Erotic Novels, But I Read My Bible Too”

Does one think because they are not doing the act, and only thinking it, that God’s cool with it?

I think we just don’t know God well enough. Or we simply forget He knows our every thought and the motives in our heart, every secret thing we hide deep inside.

We think it’s okay to read a romance novel filled with (or maybe “only two”), pornographic scenes. Maybe we silence our consciences since it’s just words and not as graphic as a television screen.

But did not Jesus equate lust with adultery?

God is the epitome of holy. He turns away in disgust at our sinful thoughts. Yet He does forgive those who are truly repentant. And He forgets.

But one must not think it’s okay to continue reading, watching, or just fantasizing about certain things, namely, sexual things (unless we’re married and thinking about our spouse, but if you are married you won’t even have to fantasize).

God sees, He hears, He knows.

We should be afraid of Him. But, it should be our love for Him that causes us to obey, just as Jesus taught.

In other words: if you’re okay with the stuff you’re watching, reading, listening to, or doing, then you don’t love Him with all your heart. You may love Him with some of your heart, but that’s like saying on your wedding day, “I’ll mostly stay through sickness and health, and all the other stuff, but not entirely.”

I wouldn’t have married Jonathan if I knew there were other women he loved besides me. I want his 100% devoted love, not some or most of it. And God is no different in that respect. He expects, with good reason, all of you.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12:1)

What are you thinking, reading, watching, listening to, or doing that you know isn’t God-honoring? If you call yourself a Christ-follower, that title entails a denial of self, a “crucifying” of one’s sinful desires, and a pursuit of Jesus.

Do you love Him with all of your heart?

If you’re a Christian you should strive for holiness, just as your Heavenly Father is holy.

He gave everything for us. He deserves nothing less in return.

Have any thoughts on this post? Feel free to share them in a comment.

Hollywood’s Love Lies Video

So me and Sir Jonathan (my husband), film relationship videos for YouTube. We give advice on how to do relationships God’s way. In this video, we parody Hollywood’s romantic comedies and debunk the second lie to their version of love. Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts on it.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=y3mBIfUro9o