Choosing Who To Marry

I used to think there was only one specific person God wanted you to marry. But after reading this, I’ve come to a different conclusion:

“A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” (I Corinthians 7:39)

The Apostle Paul says here that a woman has the freedom to marry whom she wishes, as long as they are a fellow Christ-follower. This kinda nullifies the whole “soul-mate” idea we’re spoon-fed via Hollywood.

However, I certainly believe there are people God does not want us to marry. The first being someone who does not follow/know/love Him.
But there are times where someone can say they believe in Jesus, but they’re not really following Him wholeheartedly. It is certainly detrimental to your own pursuit of Christ to bind yourself in marriage or even just tie your soul to someone relationally who does not give their whole heart to God.
Think about it: if this person cannot give Love Himself, the One who’s given them everything; died for them, made the way to heaven for them–if they cannot love Him with all their heart, or trust Him with all their heart, how could they possibly love you in a trustworthy and fully devoted way? They can’t devote themselves to the Perfect Person, how will they devote themselves to an imperfect person? The obvious answer is they won’t. Even if they never physically commit adultery, their eyes will look at others, their minds will wander, they will fantasize, or they’ll be more devoted to something else like a job, the kids, or themselves; their dreams, their desires, their money, their space etc.

The kind of love Christ taught us was very, very counter-nature:

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:5-8)

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her … So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself … let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:22, 25, 28, 33)

Submit to your husband in everything (Ephesians 5:24)? Respect a man always, even if you do not deem him respectable? This is something a natural woman, a woman who does not love and trust Jesus wholeheartedly will not want to do, nor can do.

Love your wife as you love your own self? That means to always look out for her and provide for her needs, cherishing her always, treating her as one who is just as important as your own self so she needs to be listened to and appreciated. This is impossible for a man to do till death do you part.
And to not seek your own? That’s all the culture feeds us: do you feel good with them, do they make you happy, are you pleased with them in bed, do you have a good time with them? It’s all about you. But Christ says: wait until you marry this person to enjoy their body. Sacrifice your interests, don’t seek your own, be patient “suffer long.”
When things get tough, don’t give up, do not fail to keep your vows, bear all things, always believe the best. I mean, this stuff is hard at times even for Christians to do because it’s much easier to put yourself first. But when you love Christ with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, you seek to please Him. You desire to obey the way He tells you to love others. And in His amazing grace, He gifts you with His Holy Spirit so you actually can supernaturally love the way He commands. It’s an incredibly beautiful thing.

So Christian, can you marry who you want? Only if they too love the Lord. You’ll save yourself much heartache and save yourself from divorce if you marry someone who loves Jesus more than anything or anyone else. So please be wise. Do not marry based on feelings. Marry based on observation. Does this person really love Christ wholeheartedly? How do they show it? What things come out of their mouths? What do they want to do for the Lord? How is God using them presently? Do they walk in the 1 Corinthians 13 kind of love toward others? Are they patient, kind, honest, pure, a servant? Or are they selfish and self-seeking, a gossip, rude, impatient, and prideful?

Besides choosing to follow Jesus, who you marry is most certainly the most important decision you will ever make. Who you marry will either build you up in Christ, or drag you farther away from Him. There is no in-between. You decide who to marry. I pray it’s a good choice.

Have any thoughts on this post, comments or questions? Please feel free to share them in the comment section. I’d love to hear from you

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Tired of having sex with your boyfriend?

Dear beautiful woman reading this post right now, please imagine with me for a moment:

Imagine a brand new man, one you’ve never seen before. Now this new man is acquainted with you due to some mutual friends or you’re at a place of mutual interest and notice one another. Some time passes, and this man sees you again in that mutual setting. He approaches you, and rather than asking you on a date, he asks if you’d like to join him and his friends to go and do some activity together. You agree, and you all have a nice time together. The guy invites you some more times to hang in a group setting, and you begin to build a friendship. You have a sense that he’s attracted to you, and you know you’re attracted to him, but he hasn’t made a pass at you or anything. Then, one day, you receive a phone call from him. He tells you he’s been praying about it, and would like to know if you will allow him the honor of getting to know you better. You’re totally down, so he begins inviting you places. It’s always in public, and he’s always very respectful. He doesn’t every invite you to his place, or asks you if he can come to yours. He’s just asking you questions about yourself, your goals, your dreams, your family life. He is genuinely interested in getting to know your heart. One day, he tells you he’s really impressed with who you are, and deems you a woman he would like to someday marry. So he asks you if he can have the honor of courting you. You say yes, and after some months go by, he asks for your father’s number. You give it to him, and you find out that he has asked your dad if he will give his blessing in marriage. Your dad respects this man, so he says yes. Soon after, this man proposes to you, and after the plans are made, he walks you down the aisle, and on your wedding night, is the first time you share a bed together and become one.

All right, back to reality. Let me ask you, and be honest, (it’s not like anyone can hear your thoughts anyway), if there was a guy out there who would do this exact thing I’ve just had you imagine, would you desire him? I’m gonna play it safe and say chances are you’re saying, “I most definitely would!” But now you may be thinking, but there aren’t guys out there like this. What guy dates a girl for more than a few months and doesn’t have sex with her? What guy waits prays about pursuing a girl, and then is interested in getting to know her heart, refraining from having sexual activity with her until their wedding day? This isn’t Twilight for crying out loud!

O, but there is a guy out there that is better than Edward. There is a man that will fall in love with your heart without experiencing your body and then wait for you until marriage. But in order to obtain this man, you must first give your heart to The Perfect Man.

“Natasha, who is this perfect man?”

I am so glad you asked.

Two thousand years ago, there was a man born in Bethlehem near Jerusalem. He had a very interesting birth, one written about close to seven hundred years before it happened:

“Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a Son, and shall call His name Immanuel [God with us].”-Isaiah 7:14

This man grew and lived a perfect life. He taught the people teachings that remain with us today: treat others as you desire to be treated, walk away from a fight, serve others, it’s more blessed to give than to receive. He was the most unique man that ever lived, and the most controversial. He worked miracles, healing many of various illnesses and handicaps. His words have gone down in history, and until this very day, they have opened the door to transforming the lives of millions:

“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”-John 14:6

“I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die.”-John 11:25-26

“I and My Father are one.”-John 10:30

When you allow this perfect man to come into your life, when you give him your heart, all your brokenness and disappointments, your guilt your doubts, your desires, He will give you a new heart. He will quiet your fears with His incredible love and show you just how beautiful you really are. He will make you pure again. He will make you whole.
Let Him love you. Let Him heal you. Then He will satisfy your deepest longings and provide the things you need. And when your heart is fully His, He will bring you a man that also loves Him fully, and together you will grow more in love.
You don’t have to stay in the relationship you’re in. You know deep down it’s not what it can or should be. So trust in the King. Ask Him for strength to let go of your boyfriend that you may get to know Jesus and His plans for you, and eventually meet the man He has for you. You won’t regret it.

Much love to you,

Natasha

Please don’t pray to saints

There are some who most times simply out of ignorance, place “the” saints on a level where they are able to answer prayers. But to you loved ones, I share one of many verses where Apostle Paul calls anyone who has trusted in Christ a saint:

“To the church of God that is in Corinth, to those sanctified in Christ Jesus, called to be saints together with all those who in every place call upon the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, both their Lord and ours: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.” (1 Corinthians 1:2, 3)

All who trust in Jesus are called saints, but when I die, please don’t pray to me. Absolutely nowhere in Scripture does any believer ever pray to anyone except God Himself. The only thing saints who have died and gone to be with The Lord do is watch what we’re doing and possibly cheer us on. I get this notion from Hebrews:

“And what more shall I say? For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets— who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight. Women received back their dead by resurrection. Some were tortured, refusing to accept release, so that they might rise again to a better life. Others suffered mocking and flogging, and even chains and imprisonment. They were stoned, they were sawn in two, they were killed with the sword. They went about in skins of sheep and goats, destitute, afflicted, mistreated— of whom the world was not worthy— wandering about in deserts and mountains, and in dens and caves of the earth. And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised, since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 11:32-12:1-2)

Please note how the writer says, “looking to Jesus.” We are never advised in Scripture to look toward angels or deceased saints. In fact, the Apostle Paul who was one of, if not the most impacting saint to ever walk the earth wrote to the Corinthians:

“I appeal to you, dear brothers and sisters, by the authority of our Lord Jesus Christ, to live in harmony with each other. Let there be no divisions in the church. Rather, be of one mind, united in thought and purpose. For some members of Chloe’s household have told me about your quarrels, my dear brothers and sisters. Some of you are saying, “I am a follower of Paul.” Others are saying, “I follow Apollos,” or “I follow Peter, ” or “I follow only Christ.” Has Christ been divided into factions? Was I, Paul, crucified for you? Were any of you baptized in the name of Paul? Of course not! I thank God that I did not baptize any of you except Crispus and Gaius, for now no one can say they were baptized in my name. (Oh yes, I also baptized the household of Stephanas, but I don’t remember baptizing anyone else.) For Christ didn’t send me to baptize, but to preach the Good News—and not with clever speech, for fear that the cross of Christ would lose its power.”(1 Corinthians 1:10-17)

“I came to you in weakness—timid and trembling. And my message and my preaching were very plain. Rather than using clever and persuasive speeches, I relied only on the power of the Holy Spirit. I did this so you would trust not in human wisdom but in the power of God.”(1 Corinthians 2:3-5)

“Dear brothers and sisters, when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would to spiritual people. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in the Christian life. I had to feed you with milk, not with solid food, because you weren’t ready for anything stronger. And you still aren’t ready, for you are still controlled by your sinful nature. You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn’t that prove you are controlled by your sinful nature? Aren’t you living like people of the world? When one of you says, “I am a follower of Paul,” and another says, “I follow Apollos,” aren’t you acting just like people of the world? After all, who is Apollos? Who is Paul? We are only God’s servants through whom you believed the Good News. Each of us did the work the Lord gave us. I planted the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God who made it grow. It’s not important who does the planting, or who does the watering. What’s important is that God makes the seed grow. The one who plants and the one who waters work together with the same purpose. And both will be rewarded for their own hard work. For we are both God’s workers. And you are God’s field. You are God’s building … Stop deceiving yourselves. If you think you are wise by this world’s standards, you need to become a fool to be truly wise. For the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. As the Scriptures say, “He traps the wise in the snare of their own cleverness.” And again, “The Lord knows the thoughts of the wise; he knows they are worthless.” So don’t boast about following a particular human leader. For everything belongs to you— whether Paul or Apollos or Peter, or the world, or life and death, or the present and the future. Everything belongs to you, and you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God. (1 Corinthians 3:1-9, 18-23)

So, beloved, please do not exalt any of the saints who have passed to a place where you now make requests of them and trust them to work on your behalf. Christ died to remove the veil.
At the time Christ walked the earth, the Jewish Temple was where the Jews offered sacrifices and performed worship according to the law of Moses. In this temple there was one place called the sanctuary and a second place behind a veil or curtain called the Holiest of All–the earthly dwelling place of God’s presence. Only the High Priest, once a year, was able to enter the Holiest of All to offer sin sacrifices for himself and the people, signifying the people were separated from God because of sin, but the moment Christ died on the cross, the Bible tells us:

“And Jesus cried out again with a loud voice, and yielded up His spirit. Then, behold, the veil of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom; and the earth quaked, and the rocks were split …” (Matthew 27:50, 51)

When Christ died, He paved the way for us to enter God’s presence through trusting in His sacrifice, trusting He is the Perfect Son of God who died and rose again for that very purpose, as the book of Hebrews affirms:

“This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary. Jesus has already gone in there for us. He has become our eternal High Priest in the order of Melchizedek.”(Hebrews 6:19, 20)

We do not need to request anyone for anything, because of our Precious Savior, our Perfect High Priest, we can go right into God’s Holy Presence to speak to Him and make requests:

“And so, dear brothers and sisters, we can boldly enter heaven’s Most Holy Place because of the blood of Jesus. By his death, Jesus opened a new and life-giving way through the curtain into the Most Holy Place. And since we have a great High Priest who rules over God’s house, let us go right into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ’s blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.”(Hebrews 10:19-22 NLT)

What Message Has God Given You To Write?

I have been in the presence of some Christian writers who scoffed at the idea of God writing through someone. When sharing how I pray before I write, trusting God’s Holy Spirit to work through me, some do not believe God will do this. But might I kindly remind you, beloved, that the Scriptures say in Colossians 1:29 that God is “working mightily” within us.
Jesus Himself also spoke of the Holy Spirit giving us words:

“But when they deliver you up, do not worry about how or what you should speak. For it will be given to you in that hour what you should speak; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father who speaks in you.” (Matthew 10:19, 20)

Apostle Paul also taught that the Holy Spirit gives us words:

“For I will not venture to speak of anything except what Christ has accomplished through me to bring the Gentiles to obedience—by word and deed …” (Romans 15:18)

And the prophet Jeremiah …

“Then I said, “Ah, Lord God ! Behold, I do not know how to speak, for I am only a youth.” But the Lord said to me, “Do not say, “I am only a youth”; for to all to whom I send you, you shall go, and whatever I command you, you shall speak. Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you to deliver you, declares the Lord.” Then the Lord put out his hand and touched my mouth. And the Lord said to me, “Behold, I have put my words in your mouth.” (Jeremiah 1:6-9)

God used ordinary people all throughout history as messengers to deliver His words to others, and God continues to do this today.

Now, I’m not saying everything a Christian writes is inspired by God. If your motives are jacked up, God isn’t writing through you. But if your heart is humble, and you desire to simply get His truth across, to deliver a message, there are times He gives you a message to share.
Sometimes, I write simply out of emotion, and every time I do, I have to go back and trash the thing. Jeremiah 17 tells us the heart is deceitful above all things, and Apostle Paul said the love of Christ compelled him. I’ve come to learn that writing from sheer emotions is not God compelling you to write. I might have genuinely been stirred about something disturbing I’d seen, an injustice of sorts, but immediately speaking out on it afterwards always came across wrongly.
When it is the love of Christ compelling you, there is a huge difference, and you see the fruit of the work in that it is impacting others for the better, revealing something to them, speaking to their hearts.
But many times, when God gives you a message to deliver, it’s not really something you want to do. It’s usually, from an earthly mindset, way over your head. Just as Moses disputed with God when He told him to deliver a message to Pharoh and then exodus the people of Israel from Egypt. Or when God told Jonah to deliver a message to the Ninevites; he hopped on a boat and fled in the opposite direction! And when God called teenage Jeremiah, as I mentioned before, he protested that he was too young and didn’t know how to speak.
I myself am certain the fantasy trilogy I’m currently working on is a message God wants me to deliver. How do I know this? When the idea got dropped into my mind, I was sitting in a prophetic church. Suddenly, while the pastor is teaching, the title “The Seven” randomly enters my mind and immediately, I know it’s a fantasy trilogy with seven characters who each resemble one of the seven Spirits of God–a verse I never thought about.
I was totally insecure. I thought, me, write a fantasy novel? Here I am, twenty-two-years-old, totally not a fantasy book reader, only having written nonfiction pieces about relationships from my personal experience, and God is telling me to write a fantasy book. I wasn’t even a Lord of the Rings Fan yet! My dad read The Hobbit to my sister, not me. Sure I read the Harry Potter books back when I was like ten-years-old, but I never got hooked on any dragon-and-knight-type stuff.
It took me a month to finally sit in front of the computer and begin typing the story. I knew that I knew nothing about writing fantasy and never desired to write fantasy. But because of those very reasons and the way it came to me, I knew it was not my idea. Now here I am, already working on book two, and knowing where book three is heading and how it’s all going to end. I envision it as an epic movie while I’m writing. I know what actors would be perfect for the main characters. It’s quite exhilarating.
So yes, I believe God still gives us messages to deliver to certain audiences. He has a specific message for teens and He chose me to give it to them.
As Christians, God gives all of us a message to share. Universally, we all carry the gospel, but then more personally, He uses us to give more specific messages. He’s used me to speak about the topic of relationships and marriage. What message has He given you to share?

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Until next time, Know your worth,

<3 Princess Natasha