I’m Hesitant To Share The Gospel While Others Are Getting Beaten And Killed For It

Reading about my brothers and sisters in Christ in India, Nigeria, and Egypt, and I’m so stirred by the love of Jesus within them. One man had his arm chopped off by Boko Horam terrorists, his other arm was hacked at, and after witnessing the same men shoot his wife to death because neither he nor her would deny their faith in Christ, the terrorists took his cell phone and left him for dead. Christian elders came to my brother’s aide and through Voice Of The Martyrs he’s been recovering well. From his brother’s phone he called his own, and told the terrorists God had spared his life and that he forgives them. He forgave the men who killed his wife of over 20 years, maimed him, he now has to pray he’s well enough to go back to planting yams to provide for his five children and yet, he forgives them but not just forgives, agrees to meet with them in person.

Another brother, a pastor in India, went into a Hindu Fundamentalist village to share the gospel of Jesus Christ. They kicked him out. At first he was discouraged, asking God why He sent him if they weren’t going to receive him? But he believes God wants him to go still, even if they’ll become angry, and to share the gospel with them because they need it.

He goes back. They beat him almost to death. He blacks out and they throw him in a ditch. One of the men was guilt-ridden, having never attacked an innocent man like that before. His wife rebuked him and said, “Go bring him back here into our home so his God does not become angry with us since he was a good man.” The attacker did just that, and his wife tended to the pastor’s wounds. He couldn’t speak the first day, but the next, when asked why he came to the village, he shared the gospel and said God heals and cares for the poor. The wife immediately brought her sister who’d been sick for months, and after sharing the gospel and praying for her, she was well in two days. News of her healing spread, and many came to visit the pastor—many who attacked him. He shared the gospel with them and forty of them gave their lives to Jesus and a church was built in the village. The pastor is now the pastor of that church and travels by a bike he received from Voice Of The Martyrs.

A sister in Egypt was watching the news months ago when Islamic State terrorists beheaded the 21 Coptic Christians. One of them was her 27-year-old husband. She said she was proud of him for not denying Jesus and that she forgives IS and prays for them to know the love of Jesus.

A pastor in the Nuba Mountains where they’re often bombed, 3,700 times since 2012, visits the same Muslim terrorists in prison and brings them food and the gospel. He gives of his food, loving his enemies when he sees infants and young children being killed from their attacks. He said without Jesus, it would not be possible to love his enemies.

And here I am, in America, nervous to share the gospel with my neighbor across the street. I settle for inviting her to church and when she declines, I tell her I’m here for her always for prayer. Did I share the gospel? Nope. The bible says to be ready in season and out, when the time seems favorable, and even when it does not. Am I really more worried about ruffling her feathers than sharing with her the amazing love that has set me free, that I lavish in daily, that can be hers if she so chooses?

I hate this hesitancy, this passivity. My brethren are getting beaten and killed for sharing the gospel and they KNOW that will happen to them, but they do it anyway! And if they die, the faith of other Christians is only strengthened and even some of their enemies repent.

If I’m cautious about sharing the gospel with the older lady across the street who offered to help me build a garden for our home, how will I fare if my life is threatened? Or my husband’s or child’s?

If you are reading this and you don’t know Jesus, I am telling you right now, He is God. He is Lord. There is no other, He IS the Way, the Truth, and the Life, the only way to the Father, to heaven. He loved me enough to die a brutal death and be rejected and despised by men, so I am not ashamed to say that yes, I am a Christian. Yes I believe and know with absolute certainty He is alive and is exactly who the bible declares Him to be. I pray you come to know that freeing and most important truth. There is no greater fact, no greater or higher knowledge we can attain as human beings than that God is love, and He gave His only Son that absolutely anyone who repents, and trusts in Christ will be forgiven and freed, and granted eternal life, by the goodness and grace of God the Father. Nothing in life matters more than knowing Jesus. Nothing.

I’m A Christian, But I Don’t Want To Be “Just” A Wife And Mother

My sister in Christ who is in a relationship and preparing for marriage shared something with me this morning that the Lord is working on in her, and it’s worth sharing.

She and her boyfriend are taking premarital classes with a pastor and are in the Love and Respect phase. Sir Jonathan and I likewise read Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ book (Love and Respect) together during our premarital days. It really opens your eyes to how women need love and men need respect and how to give and communicate those essential actions.

So her boyfriend ends up telling her one day: “The way you’re speaking to me is disrespectful.” She goes to the Lord about it, and He tells her: “Imagine he was Jesus. Would you speak to him the same way?”

This poignant question definitely convicted her. I thought it was such a fine lesson from the Holy Spirit that all women of God should contemplate when speaking to others, especially the opposite sex.

“Don’t be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”-Romans 12:2

In America, there is an ever-increasing feminist agenda that is ironically becoming more and more hostile to the essence of womanhood and especially hostile toward men.

To think this pervasive mindset that saturates the media has no affect on us Christian women whatsoever is to be naive at best, and prideful at worst. But there’s another message that on the surface seems innocent, but is a worldly concept—not a Christ-like one—and that is this whole, “Chase your dreams,” notion. When this notion is not submitted to Christ, it can also tie into that hostile feminist attitude and manifest itself in disrespect.

I’ve seen this time and again with my precious sisters in Christ, and I’ve experienced it too. They desire marriage and children, a godly desire that is engrained in every woman’s DNA no matter how much they try to suppress it, but there’s a competing desire, one that can very well be ungodly.

A lot of Christian women think they need their own ministry or career. They have dreams of using this ministry to make disciples. But when that dream becomes “threatened” by marriage and children, they can get defensive and disrespectful to their male counterpart.

I’m not saying every dream we christian women have is a worldly desire. The dream can very well be from God, but we must be open to His timing. I RARELY see women under forty running a ministry. Most of the time, they’re wives who have already raised their children, and are now freed up to team with their husbands to start a ministry.

God can give you a dream like He gave Joseph, but not fulfill that dream until years and years of preparation and dying to yourself. And if we are not willing to lay that dream down for the sake of serving others, namely, our husband and children, that’s pride and it is dishonoring to God. His Word teaches us in Philippians 2:4 to not only look out for our own interests, but that of others as well, and Christ said in order to be great we must become least of all and servant of all.

The proverbs 31 woman sold clothes and fields, earning a profit, but her first obligation was to her husband and children and that’s really what she was highly praised for—caring for her family and household. But the feminist movement devalues stay-at-home mothers and exalts busy, unmarried, career women. There’s an exaltation of self, and a message that putting your dreams on hold to serve your husband and children is degrading when in reality, it’s extremely Christ-like and fruitful.

There’s no higher calling than making disciples for Jesus. A mother’s role is so critical to building God’s kingdom He makes sure the Word emphasizes her role over and over; Malachi 2:15, Titus 2:4-5, Proverbs 31:27-29, Psalm 127:3.

My prayer is that you would see with God’s eyes, not our society’s; that your mind would be transformed, not conformed to the pattern of the world. Feminism is an exaltation of self, it is not a Christ-like movement of serving others. It’s all about self—my wants, my dreams, me, me, me, and it has become so demonic it is now the biggest vehicle for promoting the murder of innocent babies in their mothers’ womb.

Please keep reading God’s Word. Let Him teach you and give you discernment. Be willing to put your dreams on hold for the greater good of your husband and children. Putting others before yourself is very pleasing to the Lord, submitting to your husband, raising your children to be godly, that is what He desires most because that—marriage—is what exemplifies His relationship with us most. And it is also a great tool God uses to equip us for ministry. If we as Christian women can die to ourselves and serve our husband and children, we can die to ourselves and better serve other women we desire to minister to in the future.

Lastly, let us not forget marriage and child-rearing ARE ministries—extremely important ones. When you study God’s Word, you see just how much He values this ministry. As women, we have incredible worth and purpose, and it’s not for the reasons the world perpetuates.

May you discover the beauty and honor in being a woman who walks in her Heavenly Father’s will.

Grace and peace to you,

Natasha

I Have Everything I Need In Christ. Do You?

And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭19‬ NKJV)

Do you believe this? And this:

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. (‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭33‬ NKJV)

If you’re a Christian, a person who has repented of your sins and trusted in Christ as your Savior and Lord, these promises are yours.

The bible says God cannot lie. If He promises He will supply all of your need by Christ Jesus His Son, He will do it.

Now here’s the awesome thing: He already has.

Some think because they’re single, God hasn’t supplied everything they need, but that isn’t true. In whatever circumstance you’re currently in, God has provided you with everything you need. Apparently, if you’re still single, you do not need a husband right now. Maybe you’re not ready, maybe the man is not ready, and thus God in His infinite wisdom keeps you apart for now, knowing you two do not need each other at the moment. In fact, putting you together would actually do more harm than it would good.

Maybe you don’t have or realize you have everything you need, and this can be because you aren’t doing your part: seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.

Every Christian wants God to hook them up, to give them everything they need and want. But, how many are actually pursuing God the way He commands us to? How many of His children are actually seeking Him and His righteousness above all else?

I think it’s safe to say the vast majority of self-proclaimed Christians are not seeking God first. They’re seeking career, relationship, fame, you name it, above their pursuit of God. Then, when God is not answering their prayers, they get angry with Him.

We have to understand God’s promises are conditional. If you seek God first and His righteousness, everything you need will be added to you.

It takes two to tango. God is in a relationship with us. He is not a genie who is under us. We are beneath Him. He is Lord, He is Master, He is Father, we are supposed to do what He says. He does not have to do what we say, and every time He does it is a gift, a benefit, not a right.

Some of us just need to be patient with God, knowing He tests hearts to determine who is truly faithful to Him. Others of us need to repent from a mindset of entitlement and a lack of obedience to and pursuit of our self-professed God. We need to lay down the idols: the money, the career, the fame, the boyfriend, and seek God above all of those things, and not only seek, but obey and become righteous before Him.

God does makes lots of promises, but notice who they’re to:

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, For they shall be filled … Blessed are the pure in heart, For they shall see God.(‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭6, 8‬ NKJV)

And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. (‭Galatians‬ ‭6‬:‭9‬ NKJV)

Ill-gotten treasures have no lasting value, but righteousness delivers from death. (Proverbs 10:2)

Cast your cares on the Lord
and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. (Psalms 55:22)

Better the little that the righteous have than the wealth of many wicked; for the power of the wicked will be broken, but the Lord upholds the righteous. (Psalms 37:16-17)

For the Lord loves the just
and will not forsake his faithful ones. Wrongdoers will be completely destroyed; the offspring of the wicked will perish. (Psalms 37:28)

Blessings crown the head of the righteous, but violence overwhelms the mouth of the wicked. (Proverbs 10:6)

There’s so many more promises to the righteous, the upright, those who fear God, those who love Him, who obey Him. But these promises are not for those who put Him in second place. These blessings are not for sinners.

So truly consider your walk with God. Do you think your ways are holy and pleasing in His sight? Remember, God is holy to the third power. He hates all forms of wickedness which is disobedience to His commands, and repays each according to his works. The Bible promises we reap what we sow. What are you sowing?

Liberals Should Change Their Label To Totalitarians

As the Day draws near—the End of this existence as we know it—hate will grow more and more pervasive. It’s already been poisoning our Land of the Free for decades, but now, unlike ever before, it is becoming an epidemic.

Everyone points at the obvious, outright display of hatred by terrorists in Iraq and Gaza, but what about America’s freedom terrorists? What about those who try to murder you and gag you with their words because you profess a belief they do not agree with?

Sure, Christians here aren’t being slaughtered—yet—but we are being hated in other ways, and losing our inalienable rights. We are being forced out of the public. Our beliefs are being trampled upon, our sacred holiness and reverence for God is being fought with great force by many Liberal thinkers, which truly, they should change their label to totalitarians, because they vehemently oppose any who do not share their opinions and work with zeal to silence their nonconformist enemies.

They want to strip us of our freedom of speech, our freedom of thought and opinion, and want us to conform to their immorality. They will stop at nothing to seize our rights. They are much the like Capital in Hunger Games, they are Fidel Castro-like, they are vicious enemies of free thought. They promise freedom while all the while passionately attempting to snatch it from the people. They are lovers of their own puffed up selves, believing their ideas must be manifested in every American citizen or else persecution will be delivered, and freedom withdrawn.

They are the worst of hypocrites, pointing fingers at opposing parties and slandering them, portraying them as the enemies of freedom when truly, they are the minions of Communism and Uniformity.

They are the most racist of all. While claiming to love blacks, they take our money and As the Day draws near, the End of this existence as we know it, hate will grow more and more pervasive. It’s already been poisoning our Land of the Free for decades, but now, unlike ever before, it is becoming an epidemic.

Everyone points at the obvious, outright display of hatred by terrorists in Iraq and Gaza, but what about America’s freedom terrorists? What about those who try to murder you and gag you with their words because you profess a belief they do not agree with?

Sure, Christians here aren’t being slaughtered—yet—but we are being hated in other ways, and losing our inalienable rights. We are being forced out of the public. Our beliefs are being trampled upon, our sacred holiness and reverence for God is being fought with great force by many Liberal thinkers, which truly, they should change their label to totalitarians, because they vehemently oppose any who do not share their opinions and work with zeal to silence their nonconformist enemies.

They want to strip us of our freedom of speech, our freedom of thought and opinion, and want us to conform to their immorality. They will stop at nothing to seize our rights. They are much the like Capital in Hunger Games, they are Fidel Castro-like, they are vicious and enemies of free thought. They promise freedom, while all the while passionately attempting to snatch it from the people. They are lovers of their own puffed up selves, believing their ideas must be manifested in every American citizen or else persecution will be delivered and freedom withdrawn. They are the worst of hypocrites, pointing fingers at opposing parties and slandering them, portraying them as the enemies of freedom. Truly, they are minions of Communism and Uniformity. They are the most racist of all. While claiming to love blacks, they passionately support an industry birthed with the purpose of exterminating blacks through abortions (Planned Parenthood). While claiming to love women, they support a procedure (abortion) that triples their risk of contacting breast cancer. While professing to love children and education, they create a Common Core Curriculum designed to seize children from free opinion and conform their thinking so they can be more easily manipulated as adults.

We have an even worse terrorist group in America. One that guises themselves as Freedom Lovers and Givers, but secretly, they concoct ways to enslave their citizens for the benefit of their pockets. And we continue electing them, continue to give them power to strip away ours.

But all of this has been prophesied. All of this is inevitable. This world has allowed itself to be deceived and thus, we all will reap the consequences.

But thank God, Jesus Christ offers true freedom in the midst of this world of slavery. Freedom from sin, freedom from death, and freedom from hell. To all who repent of their sinful ways and accept Him as Lord and Savior, He will give the power of true freedom. And then one day, He will return for we who are free and He will make all things right once and for all.

Bad Circumstances Are Just Opportunities To Serve, Witness, Or Grow

Beloved,

Hubby and I are going through a tough time financially. Actually, we have been for most of our marriage. But something our Kind Father is teaching me is that every instance is an opportunity to either serve, witness, or grow.

When something isn’t put away, it’s an opportunity to serve him or her by putting it back for them. If I’m challenged by a tough circumstance, it’s an opportunity to show others the amazing peace Christ gives, and it’s always an opportunity to mature in my Christ-likeness.

The bible has several commands regarding how we are to deal with our mind. You know what that means? It means we can and are expected to control our thoughts. So when our enemy entices us to think anxiously, doubtfully, lustfully, bitterly, or anything ungodly, we actually can choose what and how we think. We, by the power of the Holy Spirit, and through knowledge of the Scriptures, can set our minds on Christ and meditate on things that are pure, holy, good, praiseworthy, or perfect.

We don’t have to have bad thoughts. We can control our mind.

So, here’s some Scriptures to encourage you.

If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. (Colossians 3:1, 2 NKJV)

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you. (Philippians 4:8, 9 NKJV)

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, (II Corinthians 10:4, 5 NKJV)

Therefore, with your minds ready for action, be serious and set your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. (1 Peter 1:13 HCSB)

Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. (Romans 12:2 HCSB)

If the enemy can get to your mind, you’re done for. Trust in and lean on God’s understanding by studying and reading His Word daily and meditating on it throughout the day (speaking it). Train yourself to see every instance the way Jesus would see it. Then, you’ll walk in peace and joy through everything.

Praying for you saints,

Natasha

Jesus died for me, He died for you, and He died for the homosexual too

Just because I love the homosexual man or woman, does not mean I will support gay marriage. Though it may hurt your feelings, the wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.

If I truly believe all those who refuse to repent of their sins and trust in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior will go to hell when they die, how can I be loving if I do not share the truth with them? Everyone has fallen short of God’s holy perfection. None of us are good enough for heaven. I’m not good enough, it’s Christ who was good enough and He deserves all the credit.

Sin is sin. Whether you’re heterosexual or homosexual, what the Word of God calls sin is sin. Lying, adultery, murderer, blasphemy, fornication. Before I surrendered my life to the good and loving lordship of Christ, I practiced sexual sin, lying, envy, hatred, drunkenness, violence, sorcery. I was on the road to hell too!

But thank God the Father in His exceedingly great mercy, He made a way to redeem ALL of us: through the death and resurrection of His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ.

I, as a Christian, am here to share with you the good news of Jesus Christ, as He commands me to do. Out of love, I share with you the wonderful gift of Christ’s love for all mankind that He took every one of our sins to that cross on Calvary two thousand years ago, and bled and died for them, shamefully bare before many as they mocked and spat upon Him. He did this for me, He did this for you, He did this for your neighbor, for my mom, your sibling, the whole world! Then He conquered death to prove to us all that He truly can give us forgiveness and eternal life—access to heaven.

But not only does Jesus give us the keys to heaven, He gives us His very own Holy Spirit to live in our hearts and transform us. He gives us the power to obey Him and live righteously in His sight that we might endure temptation and make it to His heavenly kingdom, and live a life of freedom from sin and addiction, an abundant life full of joy and peace even in the midst of this dark world, as we await His return.

That’s how much He loves us! Dying and then rising from the dead wasn’t enough in His eyes. He had to give us His own power to ensure we would be fit to live in His presence for all eternity, where the bible says God Himself will wipe away every tear from our eyes, where there will be no more pain, and only joy, peace and true love.

I pray this is the destiny you embrace. I pray you let go of whatever you’re living for now if it’s not Jesus and give Him your whole heart instead. I promise He won’t break it. He came to heal, not just physical illness, but emotional and mental as well. He desires to give you a future and a hope. He created you in your mother’s womb. His plans for you are good, pleasing, acceptable and perfect. He knows what He created you for. He holds the answers to your purpose and calling in life. He loves you, He loves you, He loves you. His Son’s sacrifice on the cross proved it.

I’m A Parent Who Encourages My 13-Year-Old To Have Sex

Parents are naive, or in denial.

To allow your thirteen-year-old to listen to sexually promiscuous music, have a boyfriend or girlfriend, permit them to go to their house, video chat with he or she in the bedroom with the door closed, and have a lock on their iPhone is in my opinion, highly encouraging sexual activity.

How can you expect your child to abstain from sex if you don’t do your job as a parent by teaching and protecting them?

Is responding to the issue with, “They’re going to do whatever they want,” really good parenting? Are not children to obey? And if they don’t, could it be possible that you have trained them to get what they want by not disciplining them thoroughly and setting boundaries?

I’m not a parent, but I have taught, taken care of, babysat, and mentored young people for a total of eight years. Though I have yet to have children, I listen to father and doctor, Bob Barnes of Sheridan House ministries on Parenting Today weekdays at 2:45pm to 3pm via ReachFm, and more parenting talks on Family Life Today and other Christian programs, and have observed the parenting of those with highly obedient and well-behaved children. I only share with you what I’ve learned from them and what I know to be true about many teens since I was there and still mentor them today.

I get emails from tempted fourteen-year-old girls. When they’re that young and in a relationship, I always encourage them to stay single and focus on their relationship with Jesus. I tell them not to consider dating (I actually teach on courting), until they’re of age or maturity to begin considering marriage. To be in a relationship before this time is to tempt oneself into sexual immorality. Hormones are blazing and it only takes some affection from your child’s crush to release the flood waters.

So I write this out of love and concern. I hear the tragedies of teen pregnancy and abortion. I know of the STD epidemic. I’m sure you parents do as well.

Please set up boundaries and restrictions for your child until they’re out of your house and on their own. The culture we live in is saturated with sex. Practically every song on secular radio is about dating and having sex. Nearly every PG-13 and R-rated movie have sexually suggestive material, and the magazines your child is confronted with in the grocery checkout isle shout for your daughter to be a sex-guru. Have you read some of the titles? I flip over those magazines and others that have half-naked women on them. But this is the day your child lives in. Sex-messages are everywhere, and that is why you have to be all the more diligent in protecting them.

Do you really want media teaching your children what sex is and when it should be experienced? Public schools are actually having a field-day teaching your children about all the ways they can be sexually active and then passing out condoms like candies.

Please guard over your precious children. They just want someone to look up to, but if you’re too busy or too tired from work to invest time in teaching your children, they will reap what you’ve sown.

50 Daily/Weekly Blessings I Want To Thank God For

I want to take a moment to thank God for the seemingly small blessings and luxuries I have at my disposal every single day and/or week.

Thank You, Lord for:
• Jesus
• The Holy Spirit
• my Bible
• my husband
• three meals a day
• family
• prayerful friends
• human rights
• especially freedom of religion and speech
• My toothbrush
• toothpaste
• shampoo & conditioner
• A/C in the home
• A/C in the car
• deodorant
• soap
• dish detergent
• laundry detergent
• shoes
• internet
• my car
• radio
• fresh air
• my immune system
• decent clothing
• my mattress
• my pillow
• bed covers
• socks
• clean water
• the microwave
• the stove
• door locks
• shelter
• leave-in conditioner
• toilets
• toilet paper
• income
• police officers
• garbage collectors
• 911
• clean hospitals
• hospitals period
• my cellphone
• three times a week safe church services
• coffee
• sweets
• Movies
• nice neighbors

If I don’t get married tomorrow, I’m going to die

Do you feel like you’ve been waiting for that spouse for a long time? Are you wondering what in the world is taking so long?

Make sure you’re being practical, not mystical. Choosing a spouse is up to you, but you do need God’s affirmation on the person you desire to pursue.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. (Matthew 6:33)

Seek God’s will first and His righteousness. Pause for a moment. Are you righteous? Are you seeking God’s will first? Not just seeking Him in the area of relationships, but in every area of life.

You may be praying for a spouse, but you’ve got sin in your heart that has yet to be dealt with.

Do you struggle with lust and think when you get a spouse it will magically disappear? Yes, we all get tempted at some point, but the Bible is clear that:

No one undergoing a trial should say, “I am being tempted by God.” For God is not tempted by evil, and He Himself doesn’t tempt anyone. But each person is tempted when he is drawn away and enticed by his own evil desires. Then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and when sin is fully grown, it gives birth to death. (James 1:13-15)

James tell us in the verse before:

A man who endures trials is blessed, because when he passes the test he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him. (James 1:12)

If you fall into sexual sin, and have premarital sex, are you enduring? Should you expect a spouse? If you are master-bating because you cannot control your thoughts, are you enduring?

Again, we all get tempted by our own lists, and the Bible commands us to “take every though captive and bring it into the obedience of Christ,” (2 Corinthians 10:5) and in various other places, “don’t conform but be transformed by the renewing of your mind,” and, “gird the loins of your mind.” If you are allowing yourself to have sexual fantasies or are succumbing to pornography, God will not hand over one of His precious children to your lust so that you can objectify them and use them and end up cheating on them because you never learned to control your thoughts.

If this is speaking to you, the beautiful thing is that God understands our weaknesses. You can come to Him and confess these things. Do not try and hide it, Adam tried that trick in the garden and it accomplished nothing.

God is all-knowing remember? He knows every thought you have. But He wants you to confess it to see if you are serious about changing. That’s the first step: confession.

The second is repentance. Realize how broken you are. Realize that Jesus takes sexual lust so serious He equates it to adultery. Determine not to fantasize or masterbate or have premarital sex anymore.

Ask brothers and sisters to hold you accountable. Seek biblical counseling. Disconnect your Internet. Run from it! Repentance means running from your sin. Read your Bible, let it shine its bright light on the darkness of your heart, be open to it exposing your secret motives to you.

When you do this and overcome, then you will be a trust-worthy steward who God can bless with a spouse. Until then, stop whining and start changing.

It may not be lust you battle, but anger, or insecurity. These all must be dealt with. If you’re an insecure woman, you believe the lie that a husband will make you feel secure. In reality, when he comes, you’re gonna be making Him the Messiah in your life and set unreal expectations on him that will bring your marriage to destruction.

Anger is obviously destructive so need to expound on that one. But these are necessary to rid yourself of before marriage.

So, seek God’s will and righteousness first, and everything else will be added to you.